I am so sorry you are having this trouble. Very frustrating. I am not a relationship expert AT ALL, but in my experience guys think weird. They don't like to be told what to do. Even if they want to do something they might not do it if it seems like they are being told to do it, or feel pressured. So the trick is to figure out a way to make him feel like the adoption deadlines are his idea (like in My Big Fat Greek Wedding). It sucks I know.

Sorry if I overstepped my bounds with this suggestion. Obviously I don't know the whole story. It is just a stab in the dark.

No advice here on the M front... I don't have any experience in that area. But I do know that the old cliche "If you want something done right, do it yourself," is pretty true most of the time.

I think it is a "guy-thing". Not that that helps, though. I usually just do things myself. It is easier.

Good luck getting it done and in the mail.

I was the paperwork nazi around here and I found that nagging incessently really helped get things done...I mean real nagging, not just gentle reminders.

Yeah, I took charge on the paperwork front too. Its like the guys don't think its really going to happen or something...but I know that they change BIG-TIME after getting a referral. I've read that in quite a few blogs. That definitely happened with B.

CS and I made a deal. If it is a financial document he can do it. Being the financial planner and all. Everything else I took care of. He was mostly my Apostille shuttle service.

I am waiting for two also. What region does your agency deal with?
Melissa

I'm handling everything unles Dave has to answer the questions himself. If I can fill it in I do and then I just sit with him hand him a pen and say sign here till it's done.
Hope he gets it all done for you.

Our situation was kind of like Elle's. He had a few things he was responsible for and I did the rest. When deadlines were nearing I would make lists for both of us. I would then set a deadline ahead of the true deadline so that if we missed it, it would pump us into gear and we would have it done in plenty of time.

Good luck! I know you guys will work out your own system too. You just have the beginning kinks to work out.

Everyone already said all that needed to be said, so I offer you this:

Men suck.

Thanks for the welcome to blogger world!
Don't give up! I felt the same way a couple of months ago. Our med. doctor took forever to fill out our paperwork, over a month. I kept calling and calling, I was so frustrated, I was ready to call it quits. My DH stepped up to the plate, suprisingly and made an appointment and the form got filled out. I was also trying to stick to my deadline. So, don't give up yet. Ask dh when he thinks he will have his part ready, this way, you don't get disappointed.
I like Debbie's response too :-)
Laura

I am wondering why a woman who is going to a Banana Republic Collection show as a reason why she cant do paperwork to get her child is even adopting. Are you sure you are ready for the 24/7 call of children? I dont have time to go to the bathroom alone much less see the new fall collection of anything. You will never know beforehand the absolute identity stealing factor of becoming a mother and only the most dedicated can even begin to fill the shoes.... your child is first and you become second- if you are lucky and if that child is lucky enough to have a mother who is dedicated enough to put that child first. Your clothes will be smeared with snot and food and the idea of wearing the "Fall Collection" will be a done deal.
Think about where you are in your life and be sure of what you really want.
-a message from the frontline of motherhood- mother of 4

Gee, I didn't know that going out to dinner & shopping was against being a mom rules. Especially since 1/2 the women their were moms and my support during this process. I can't wait to see my next comment.