Tuesday, May 29, 2007
Procrasination
I have so much work to do. Hence, blog distraction. I've giving myself a 10-minute break because I owe you all a follow-up to my post from last week. (Thanks so much for your advice.)

There have been a million and one thoughts on this. Almost all of them in my head since I am the over-analyzer of the family.

Monday-Tuesday
After talking with the agency director we decided to open our options to non-siblings. When we decided to adopt children rather than have 'em biologically, it was because we wanted to provide a home to children who do not have one. Biological wasn't the important thing or else we would have tried to have our children the old fashioned way. So why should biological be a concern now?

Wednesday-Friday
The decision did not feel comfortable to me. It felt like we were giving up on another strong feeling we had... adopt two children who are older and related since it may be harder for siblings to find homes together compared to singles.

Saturday
Moment of clarity for me. I would rather travel blind for siblings than receive referrals of non-siblings. This is how I feel now. This could change tomorrow. M asks me why I am overanalyzing this. When we are presented referrals...we will know what is right for us. M is open to both options; and will support my preferences.

Sunday-Today
Duh. My gut feeling is that we must follow our initial path right now. Things will work out as they will. Just like all of you said on your comments. Biological or not, they are going to be wonderful children. It won't matter. Let's just see what happens.

Man, you guys are smart! ;-)
7 Comments:
Blogger Deb said...
I think you're right to go with your original plan.
One question, could you possibly ppen it to either siblings or not with a perference for siblings. That way they know you're open to non-sibs if a refferal becomes available?

Blogger A Room to Grow said...
We could open it up to non-siblings with a preference for siblings. But if non-siblings were presented to us right now, if they seemed like a good match we would not turn them down... so that has been the real debate. Should we "hold out" for siblings? How much do we really want biological siblings as our children?

Blogger Christen L said...
glad you were able to come to a decision. usually going with your gut works out well - i'm sure this time it will, too!

Blogger Valerie said...
Trish -
You sound so much like me - with slight variations. My decision making process goes pretty much the same way. I am CERTAIN that we're choosing the right path one day, but see me the very next day and....well....on the other hand. I've always considered myself to be a great decision maker, until IA came my way. Wow! It makes your head spin doesn't it?

To answer you question posed to me, would LOVE LOVE LOVE to be going to the AO picnic, but will be on a cruise to Alaska! Boo-hoo. We'll be at the October one for sure. Hopefully by then we'll both have our little ones!

Blogger Lea said...
You have to follow your heart. We indicated two boys but were open to a boy and a girl, siblings and non-siblings. I think being open to either situation is a nice thing, since you're just never sure which children need homes the most at a given point in time.

I hope you hear something soon.

Blogger Suzanne said...
I remember when we were vacillating about turning down a referral and every day I flip-flopped. I finally followed my heart and we said "no". I'm sure you read about what happened after that.

btw I tagged you for the Summer Goals Meme.

Blogger Mike & Lisa said...
Hi! You could (and probably already are) letting the agency present whatever comes up (siblings or unrelated) and you can always decline the non-siblings, if it doesn't feel right. I would have thought that it would be easy to get a quick referral for siblings, as people are not always looking for multiple kids, but I guess with Russia, you just never know!