I have so much work to do. Hence, blog distraction. I've giving myself a 10-minute break because I owe you all a follow-up to my post from last week. (Thanks so much for your advice.)
There have been a million and one thoughts on this. Almost all of them in my head since I am the over-analyzer of the family.
Monday-TuesdayAfter talking with the agency director we decided to open our options to non-siblings. When we decided to adopt children rather than have 'em biologically, it was because we wanted to provide a home to children who do not have one. Biological wasn't the important thing or else we would have tried to have our children the old fashioned way. So why should biological be a concern now?
Wednesday-FridayThe decision did not feel comfortable to me. It felt like we were giving up on another strong feeling we had... adopt two children who are older and related since it may be harder for siblings to find homes together compared to singles.
SaturdayMoment of clarity for me. I would rather travel blind for siblings than receive referrals of non-siblings. This is how I feel now. This could change tomorrow. M asks me why I am overanalyzing this. When we are presented referrals...we will know what is right for us. M is open to both options; and will support my preferences.
Sunday-TodayDuh. My gut feeling is that we must follow our initial path right now. Things will work out as they will. Just like all of you said on your comments. Biological or not, they are going to be wonderful children. It won't matter. Let's just see what happens.
Man, you guys are smart! ;-)
One question, could you possibly ppen it to either siblings or not with a perference for siblings. That way they know you're open to non-sibs if a refferal becomes available?
You sound so much like me - with slight variations. My decision making process goes pretty much the same way. I am CERTAIN that we're choosing the right path one day, but see me the very next day and....well....on the other hand. I've always considered myself to be a great decision maker, until IA came my way. Wow! It makes your head spin doesn't it?
To answer you question posed to me, would LOVE LOVE LOVE to be going to the AO picnic, but will be on a cruise to Alaska! Boo-hoo. We'll be at the October one for sure. Hopefully by then we'll both have our little ones!
I hope you hear something soon.
btw I tagged you for the Summer Goals Meme.