Monday, July 02, 2007
Follow-up (and Rant)
I appreciate all of the time and thought that were put into your responses to my last post. It really means alot to me. My plan was to give you the "Part 2" to that post but interestingly your kindness and support brings up something else I have experienced over the last 9 months.

Have you ever felt like your blog friends know you better than your real-life friends and family? I think my blog friends know the details of our adoption, and our dilemmas and emotions that we face, better than most people we know. In a way, I think it makes complete sense that we can all relate to each other since we are going through or have been through the same thing. And we like to openly like to talk about and share our lives.

But I do find it strange that some of my closest friends and family members have no idea where we are in the process. And never really ask us either. I'd like to think that people are not saying / asking because they don't know what to ask or what to say, rather than being totally disinterested.

As suggested in my title, this is just a rant for a late Monday night. We have many good, participatory friends and family out there.

Fortunately, very fortunately, I have my blog friends too.
4 Comments:
Blogger Yeah So said...
Absolutely! That's why we all blog in the first place. No else really "gets it" unless you've been through it. With bloggy friends you never have to couch your words or apologize for your feelings. We support you no matter what!

Blogger Unknown said...
I hope I can fit into both categories. I am sooo glad that you told me about your blog and that I get to keep up with you at least by knowing what is going on with highlights and such, I hope you feel the same about us. I know I can't relate to the ins and outs of the adoption process but it is very interesting to watch you go through it. I know Tammy keeps up with your blog too, not sure if she ever leaves comments but we talk about it every now and then. We are heading up there tomorrow, wish you could be on the lake with us!! Come and see us soon!

Blogger Christen L said...
I totally agree! I don't think I am in need of therapy, but blogging is kind of like support group. Friendly sharing and supporting each other. It's entertaining and heartwarming to see other people's victories and family life. It's sad and reminds us of what we have to be thankful for when we share in others' losses. I feel like I can be more honest with my blog friends - less passing of judgements, more sincere excitement for each other, less competitiveness between friends. I sometimes wonder if we would all feel the same if we met in person somewhere, someday. Would it change our blogland relationships? Is it better to just be friends through the web? I don't know the answers, but I am thankful for my blogger friends, too.

Blogger Rachael said...
I think in blogging gives you an opportunity to be more honest and open than you might be in real life. It's also a forum for saying things you might never otherwise bring up. So, in a sense you do get to really "know" some of your blog friends quite intimately. I kind of wish more of my real life friends blogged, but they don't "get" it.