Wednesday, August 08, 2007
Just So You Know...
I'm actually having a hard time dealing with the waiting right now. Not "I can't stand this anymore" depression but a general, "oh woe is me" bummed out feeling. It's hard seeing families enjoying their summer together and getting ready for the new school year...

And I feel like I've been stringing the neighborhood moms along. They keep asking me if we have any adoption news and I keep coming back with the exact same answer (adding a week or month each time). I get the feeling like I won't be a real member of their club until I have children to show them! (Thank goodness they are granting me a daily pass because Thani is so cute and the kids love him.)

You know how you put together the adoption timeline in your head? And then it has to be modified, and modified, and modified? Here's mine.

Referral in April or May (so we can be home by end of July) and think about school in the Fall...

then the Morrissey show came and went

Referral by the end of July (before the August slow down) ... thought our good deeds would bring us some good luck. We did get re-accrediation, which is huge! This timeline would mean we'd be coming home in September! Just in time for Halloween!

now I'm thinking

Referral by October so we can be home by Christmas. What, Christmas???!!!

I know it will happen. I just feel like my head is going to explode or implode right now. I'll let you know which way it goes.
12 Comments:
Blogger Ryan and Katie said...
I hear ya cluckin' big chicken.

Blogger yorkiemom said...
I'm right there with you, the waiting can really get to you especially with the "any news" question all the time.

Blogger Rachael said...
Oh Tricia, don't implode or explode. Hold on just a little bit more!

Blogger Deb said...
I expected ours to be done and home by Christmas 2006. Yeah, well obviously that didn't work.

You are almost there, (Which doesn't help any I know) but you are.
I just heard someone say 2 families with their agency just got referrals so you could still receive a referral this month even with the slow down.

Blogger 6blessings said...
I hope you hear some news soon. I keep checking on you. It's got to be soon. I know you've heard it before and I know they are useless words when you are in the wait, but it is all worth it in the end and the wait really does disappear. Hoping to see referral news very, very soon!

Blogger Allison said...
I could have written this exact post. I kept thinking we would have her home at the beginning of summer, then the end of summer, then Halloween, now I'm just praying for Christmas. Sending hugs your way.

Blogger Becky and Keith said...
I've only been waiting a month and already my mental timeline seems to be slipping! I'm a pessimist through and through so right now my goal is to have the peanut home by the end of next summer. Or maybe I should shoot for next Christmas! :-} I hope your waiting quickly comes to an end!

Blogger Tami said...
The waiting is the worst part of international adoption! No matter how well I thought I prepared myself for the wait...it was always so incredibly difficult. The good news is each day brings you that much closer to your child...and one day soon, this will all be a distant memory.
I promise.

Blogger Yeah So said...
Hang in there! Go back and read your early posts and look how far you've come! You are almost there, girl.

Maybe there is a project you can put your efforts into while you wait? Something you've been meaning to do before they get there - clean a closet, redo a room, something? How about buying all the makings for a scrapbook so that you're all ready once they arrive?

Blogger Christen L said...
I hope you don't implode or explode :( Try to hang on! I know that doesn't really help, because when we had to bump back our move to the states, I felt like this will never happen for us. But, now I realize it's going to be 2008 before I know it. Only one more year until I can turn in that paperwork. That means you will be home with your girls before you know it! Time is going to fly.... it has to, or I might implode.

Blogger CarolinaGirl said...
Hey friend!! I have missed you and all my old blogger friends. I am in the land of the living again! WOO HOO!!

I just want to say that I know it is hard with the waiting. Ours was a unique situation. But, I can imagine the frustration, depression, woe is me syndrome. It will pass. But, I know it is hard. Time has a way of sneaking up on you. I fully believe that there is a reason for everything. I can't wait to be back in touch!!

Caroline

Blogger Jenni said...
I was you two years ago! Especially the "Woe is me" part. In the end, everything worked out just fine for us, and it will for you too. Hang in there!