I'm actually having a hard time dealing with the waiting right now. Not "I can't stand this anymore" depression but a general, "oh woe is me" bummed out feeling. It's hard seeing families enjoying their summer together and getting ready for the new school year...
And I feel like I've been stringing the neighborhood moms along. They keep asking me if we have any adoption news and I keep coming back with the exact same answer (adding a week or month each time). I get the feeling like I won't be a real member of their club until I have children to show them! (Thank goodness they are granting me a daily pass because Thani is so cute and the kids love him.)
You know how you put together the adoption timeline in your head? And then it has to be modified, and modified, and modified? Here's mine.
Referral in April or May (so we can be home by end of July) and think about school in the Fall...
then the Morrissey show came and wentReferral by the end of July (before the August slow down) ... thought our good deeds would bring us some good luck. We did get re-accrediation, which is huge! This timeline would mean we'd be coming home in September! Just in time for Halloween!
now I'm thinkingReferral by October so we can be home by Christmas. What, Christmas???!!!
I know it will happen. I just feel like my head is going to explode or implode right now. I'll let you know which way it goes.
You are almost there, (Which doesn't help any I know) but you are.
I just heard someone say 2 families with their agency just got referrals so you could still receive a referral this month even with the slow down.
I promise.
Maybe there is a project you can put your efforts into while you wait? Something you've been meaning to do before they get there - clean a closet, redo a room, something? How about buying all the makings for a scrapbook so that you're all ready once they arrive?
I just want to say that I know it is hard with the waiting. Ours was a unique situation. But, I can imagine the frustration, depression, woe is me syndrome. It will pass. But, I know it is hard. Time has a way of sneaking up on you. I fully believe that there is a reason for everything. I can't wait to be back in touch!!
Caroline