Sunday, August 17, 2008
Help Wanted
MWF soon to be closer to 40 than 30, seeking other Fs for blogging, instant messaging or happy hour. I'm stressed out and grumpy, which means that this also pretty much sums up the rest of my family. One stress factor comes in the form of a 48-inch, 52-pound second grade girl whose vocabulary only consists of "I need", "I want" and "No". Insert repeat fifty billion times. In the most whiny, spoiled voice possible. When told "no" by parent will give snarky response with rolled eyes 20% of the time. Mom (me) thinks that girl needs a refresher course in discipline and also needs to reestablish some limits. Can't agree with father on terms and conditions. Insert more grumpiness and fight here. Mom willing to leave family up to three days for trip to Las Vegas or somewhere equally as tacky for the consumption of too many drinks and a night of 80s/90s dancing. Will take any and all offers. Yes, I'm desperate.


Quote of the day (said during the crescendo of our big "fight" of the day):
"I don't want to be your daughter anymore"

Yes, this made me sad. I didn't expect this for another five years. But I was so proud of her english. I didn't know that she knew these words and could put them together in a sentence. (BTW - we made up later and it was really sweet. Kisses and hugs and everything.)

But I'm still serious about my personals ad internets.
15 Comments:
Blogger Lauri said...
I hear you sista....... I would happily run off to vegas for fun & friendship.. in the meantime.. be good to yourself.. go catch a movie, get a manicure and be gentle with yourself.... that Mama Guilt sucks the life out of you


Take it easy

Blogger Maggie said...
A trip to Vegas sounds awesome. I know you're kidding, but we should seriously plan something like that.

And get used to it. I hear the "I don't want to live here anymore." statements a lot. I try not to let them hurt, but they kind of do because, for our kids, living elsewhere is something they can imagine.

Blogger Ronda said...
Tough times here too Tricia. Thought I might do serious damage to my husband, my children or all of the above this weekend. Ahhhhh, the whining. My hubby has a broken ankle and he has been pretty immobile for the last six weeks. I get to be on sick duty and full time kid duty and oh yes, I run a company too. Fun times. I need a break. Hmmm. Vegas. Maybe . . .

Sorry it's so tough. School starts here next week so I'm in a wait and see mode. Things could get better or . . . Isn't Rita ready to go back to school too?

Ronda

Blogger Amber and Nala said...
Sounds like you definitely need a girls night or weekend away. Although I don't have kids yet I work with them everyday so I can understand a bit of where you are coming from. :)It's hard work! It sounds like you are doing a great job with Rita and a little discipline refresher course is always good for kiddos because as many times as you tell them something they will more than likely forget. ;)

I really like the slideshow too...so cute!

I bet you missed Thani when you went on vacation. It can be very tricky traveling with a dog but it has forced us to do things we wouldn't have otherwise. :) Have a great day!

Blogger Elle said...
I like Vegas. And I know a few little known places there...

Blogger Rachael said...
Sounds like you need to coordinate a Vegas trip. I'm there.

And, I think I have your little one's twin over here.

Blogger Ryan and Katie said...
I hear ya. Sometimes the whining makes me want to explode. So glad there is tomorrow!

Blogger Bill and Myra said...
If I lived closer, I'd go to Vegas too. For the first year with Sergei, I heard "I just go back to Russia". I also hear no, your aren't my real parents, etc. from him as well. With the new little guy, it is constantly "ne boodit." It drives me a little crazy!

Hang in there! The hugs are worth it!

Myra

Blogger Mike & Lisa said...
I get away with friends every six months or so. it keeps me sane. I just got back from a visit to Portland OR to see friends. It holds me for a while, until the next trip. LH

Anonymous Anonymous said...
You can always make a visit to beautiful Eau Claire, Wisconsin. Summer activities here include:

1) Tubing down the Chippewa River
2) That's it.

It's a pretty simple life.

Anonymous Anonymous said...
HUGS

it's hard, you have definitely signed up for a challenging parenting road but are doing your best. it's hard being a kid who has been through so much. i remember living in my umpteenth foster home in high school and writing my name with their last name wishing they were my family on the inside but hating them on the outside. it wasn't really them i hated, but they got the brunt of all my anger :(

they legally adopted me when i was 25 :-)

hang in there is so cliche but yeah, find ways to keep the family healthy, you and your hubby, because it is a rough road.

check out www.thinkkids.org - my friend with a RAD son has found much help from there

love the slideshow

Blogger Deb said...
Slideshow below is great. She looks so happy and has changed so much.

Do be sure to go out on your own just for yourself, not work. Leave her home and don't worry about her. It's hard no matter what age your child is to constantly be with them. But when the attitude starts to creep out more and more... well I can't imagine. I do hope she calms down some. Maybe starting school soon will help her, occupy her time.
You plan a trip and I bet a lot of bloggy moms would try to join you.

We're here for you to vent to whenever you need to vent.

Anonymous Anonymous said...
Hey girlfriend. Wrote a thougtful comment that got eaten by the internet monsters.

Love your funny personal. So true, so right on, so ascerbic. Keep your sense of humor. It's all we have right now.

For what it's worth, I loathe Vegas, but I could convince T to take care of the girls for a weekend, if you are serious. Really. Bet we could convince Ronda and a few others.

Regarding Rita's quote--actually it's great news. It means she is really attaching to you and M. She's scared because she's never known this kind of love, attention and discipline. I know it's so tough, but hang in there, it will get better.

Blogger Unknown said...
OMG...I wish I would have read this blog sooner. I was soooo there last week and since this week has already flown by and I still have nothing accomplished, I could so get on a plane tomorrow and meet you in Vegas. Seriously being a mom and working is like a non stop stress train. I don't feel like I ever get a break and it isn't easy on the h/w relationship either!

Blogger Jenni said...
Have you gotten the, "My Russian mama wouldn't do that because she loved me!" one yet? That's always fun.

I look at it as the kids becoming attached to you, but feeling torn between loyalty to their Russian family (or their idea of the family) and you. It's still hard to take at times though.

Sorry I got to his post so late!